One-on-one counseling sessions are very effective to work on a variety of difficult or consequential decisions. Some examples:
- What kind of living situation would be best for me (and my bank account)? Buying a house? Having roommates? An intentional community? Renting? Renting something else?
- Should I go to school again? Where? What else could I do for my career?
- Should I sell or restructure my business?
- Should I move to Hawaii?
- What car should I buy?
Couples are often facing special kinds of challenging decisions, such as:
- Do we want to have (another) baby, and when? Would adoption or a foster family be the right choice for us?
- Should we try to have an open relationship?
- What kind of dog would be best for our family, if any?
Organizations and groups, such as work teams or families, may work on issues such as:
- What should we do with the house we inherited?
- Should we merge our start-up business with a bigger company?
Coaching – Setting and Achieving Goals
Most of us are not as efficient and productive as we would like to be, and struggle regularly with procrastination and lack of motivation. It is inherently difficult to manage our time optimally, to follow through with our plans and to stay focused.
As a result we may feel guilty and find it hard to relax and fully disengage from work during breaks, which again is detrimental to our productivity in the long run, leading to a downward spiral of stress, guilt and underachievement.
- finding motivators, creating visions
- setting up realistic and healthy schedules
- setting and meeting your own deadlines
- finding your personal procrastination triggers and tackling them
- eliminating distractions
- increasing focus and concentration
- gaining conscious control over procrastination habits
- finding reward structures that work for you
- becoming a compassionate boss for yourself
- experimenting with different work strategies
- finding creative solutions to overcome obstacles
I employ methods from different schools of thought that are evidence-based and proven to be efficient for achieving goals (e.g., cognitive behavioral, mindfulness-based, decision-analytic, value focused, creative thinking and problem-solving techniques).
Mediation – Conflict Resolution
Sometimes people want – or need – to make a decision together, even though they may have fundamentally different goals and interests. Mediation is a conflict resolution process, where a neutral, third party (the mediator) guides the process and assists in reaching a peaceful agreement.
A mediator provides a safe environment, creating trust and understanding, and improving communication and problem solving skills.
Mediation is voluntary, private and confidential.
Only the participants can make a decision. The mediator has no authority and makes no decisions. The parties and the nature of the conflict determine the specifics of each mediation process – who participates, how many sessions, what constitutes an acceptable agreement, etc.
In my mediation approach, I emphasize creative problem solving more than negotiation and compromises. My approach therefore works best if all parties are willing to consider new ideas and think harder and further. It is surprising how often the best solutions are not the ones that first come to mind.
Workshops – Talks
In my workshops you can learn some hands-on tools that can improve and support decision making in general.
- Making decisions as a couple – how to turn differing opinions into creative solutions
- Reaching consensus decisions as a team – learn to formalize a group decision process
- Creative thinking and problem-solving techniques